snapshots of an idle mind

January 2, 2006

here we go again…

Filed under: Uncategorized — sassinak @ 6:08 pm

ahhh was a nice mellow reentry into the world today. teach two classes, one private and one group and then hit the gym. yeah, i’m taking my non functioning arms climbing. yes, i’m insane. anyway currently i’m wasting the two and a half hour break between these classes (that is usually filled with other teaching but the holidays mess with the schedule) by doing laundry, listening to tunes and playing with the internet.

i don’t really feel like i rested over the holidays. i feel like i meant to rest but then i took all my resting time and stuck people or climbing in it. so yesterday i tried very hard not to speak for the entire day and in large part i succeeded except that my neighbour came over at midnight and we talked half the night. which sort of killed the day of not talking and i’m feeling it in my throat this morning. that and all the pot i smoked in the last couple of weeks.

i did have a somewhat strange experience in the middle of my day off yesterday (read 7pm). this man messaged me out of the blue to inform me that we needed to play the sex game right now… but he managed to do it with enough wit (plus he’s gorgeous) that i chatted with him for a bit. all right fine you lazy bitches here’s a pic:
the rest of those can be found on his profile which is linked so you have no excuse.

anyway i confess to a little temptation since it’s been a couple of years and i actually miss the whole sexual being bit of my character but unfortunately i just can’t do that kind of thing. the only reason that i mention this at all is because the timing was hysterical. there i am reading the comments on my post about the boys who have the brains AND the pretty and i’m commenting that pretty alone just isn’t enough when mr. pretty himself messages me to say ‘hey let’s boink’ and i looked down at my keyboard and my blue flannel pyjamas and i thought to myself ‘so not worth the energy buddy’ and went back to playing with the internet.

which sums up in a nutshell why i’m not getting laid. fucking scruples.

anyway it was sort of neat to have the proof of the statement i was making come up and poke me in the chest. sometimes you say things about yourself but you’re not really convinced that they’re true because you haven’t had the opportunity or whatever but that’s two hotties recently who just wanted boinking and *I* said no every time. i’m a little proud of myself.

he was funny though; when i said that i was the kind of girl that needed some dating before she felt comfortable climbing into bed with someone he goes ‘great let’s go for two coffees at two different places and then bang!”

okay lame as all hell but it cracked me up. there’s something about wit that makes it so much less likely that you’ll slap a guy i can’t even tell you. it’s the essential difference between north americans and europeans. in north america if a guy is looking at your ass he’s ogling it and thinking really rude thoughts and then he’s going to try to pretend that he isn’t looking when you turn around because your ass is burning from the stare.

in europe you’ll be sitting there in a cafe chatting and the man beside you is staring at something and you say ‘what are you staring at?’ and he says “your breasts” and somehow that’s fully not offensive. it’s all in the delivery. first of all the european guy is generally thinking that your breasts are pretty but he isn’t imagining putting them in breast bondage and urinating on them (hee couldn’t resist… who just spit up their breakfast cereal?) or otherwise really doing anything. or if he is? somehow there’s some polite there.

i can’t really explain it but it’s kind of like the gay community. a gay friend read the bit about those guys who are totally unaware of how they feel and he was like ‘ahhh straight men’ because for him that would last about three days. he would look at his own behaviour and be like ‘hey… wait a second… i like this guy’ whereas the traditional stereotypical straight guy won’t notice for months.

least that’s what they want us to think.

and most gay men i know are very european when it comes to initial approach or sex. they will be matter of fact about what they want and what they’re after and if you’re in then great and if you’re not then oh well. no huhu and no hard feelings.

i think that if north american men got a little europe going and the women got a little more willing to discuss what they wanted instead of dancing around the subject that our society would be ever so much healthier.

tough thing in a society founded by the puritans though.

i mean i say all this rationally but i don’t see me really asking anyone out or for sex or whatever… so why don’t i put my money where my mouth is? so to speak.

hell, why don’t you? ;)



  1. Damn girl, he’s beautiful!

    So, question is, why not ask him out for coffee or something? After all, you’ve made it clear that you’re not interested in a quick bang, what’s the harm in seeing if he’s interested in a quick coffee?

    He’s certainly a smartass, n’ it’s not the most attractive come-on but what do you have to lose, really? An hour of your time, tops.

    Comment by mightydoll — January 2, 2006 @ 7:23 pm | Reply

  2. It’s January…which means I have no money to put in my mouth or anywhere else *smile* …but you are completely right. Since I spent a semester in Spain, I’ve been on about how completely repressed US society is. Tough to overcome all those years of puritanism … plus you have the diehards who think, “this is America! Land of the free!” and have no idea how much LESS free their compadres are than their counterparts across the pond.

    Anyhoo, I am getting caught up in the commenting when really all I wanted to do was post and say thanks for the globe-track thingy but I am so completely technologically incompetent that I don’t even know if my blog uses frames or no frames so I can’t set it up. It’s all very sad, really…but that’s what happens when you take a fish out of water. I signed up really only because I was tired of posting quasi-anonymously on Nat’s blog. It’s fun though, this blogging business…but maybe not fun enough to warrant a tracker!

    I’m hopeless…

    Comment by JMai — January 2, 2006 @ 10:10 pm | Reply

  3. i’m with mightydoll….why not meet up?

    i’m with you cheap banging for me…as tempting as it is, and as long as it’s been (’s been like two weeks..but shhhhh)…there’s just something gross, TO ME, about meeting someone for the sole purpose of having sex….i think it’s kind of gross to bang someone you don’t even know, really.

    god invented masterbation for a purpose…right?

    Comment by da buttah — January 3, 2006 @ 12:03 am | Reply

  4. md: i know… fucking scruples!

    i guess i could ask him out for coffee but it seems to me he would then expect me to bang him… which i am not morally averse to but i don’t do that on a first date… and i get the impression that he would think he was wasting time if i didn’t… so what’s the point?

    definite smartass. i said ‘i don’t sleep with strangers’ and he said ‘so you think i’m strange?’ was fun.

    JM: i’m doing okay this january… entirely unexpected but nice nonetheless. you spent a semester in spain? you lucky lucky bitch! (that’s envy not me actually calling you a bitch) but isn’t the difference amazing?

    yeah i’m canadian and it’s actually a lot freer here … well at least it seems that it is.

    your blog has no frames. ask me or nat for help if you need it :)

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 12:05 am | Reply

  5. hey, if I looked like that guy, I’d be throwing out all kinds of cheesy lines myself.

    and, for the record, I AM staring at your tits and proud of it! LOL

    Personally, I’m less open and go-for-it not necessarily because of culture/upbringing/social mores, as much from an past filled with the experience of rejection ;)

    Comment by DZER — January 3, 2006 @ 2:23 am | Reply

  6. elle: i guess i should have said ‘let’s meet for coffee and we’ll see’ except i already know that i don’t boink strangers. damm he’s fine though :)

    two weeks huh? makes me wonder what else you aren’t telling us *grin*

    it’s been so long since i’ve had sex that i’ve actually gotten bored with masturbation.

    dzer: yeah, so would i *grin*

    yeah deez but you won’t make me feel gross while you’re doing it…

    i’m less open and go for it only because experience has taught me that i feel icky in the morning. that’s an excellent cure for casual sex.

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 9:05 am | Reply

  7. It’s nice to read a happy Sass! I laughed out loud several times.

    Comment by SignGurl (Jenn) — January 3, 2006 @ 10:38 am | Reply

  8. yay for laughter!

    have i been unhappy? reflective for sure but the season does that to me :)

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 11:08 am | Reply

  9. I think you should go for the coffee, see what he’s like in person.

    Meeting new people is always a good thing, and meeting HOT new people is never boring, even if it leads nowhere.

    As MightyDoll sez, what will you be giving up by having a coffee date? You already LOVE coffee, and Hot Boys, so that’s taken care of here! He’s fully aware that you are not quickly bangable, so it’ll be interesting to see how he acts/reacts.

    Just have fun with it!


    Comment by Johnny Canuck — January 3, 2006 @ 11:39 am | Reply

  10. thing is y’all that this is clearly not a guy into actual dating. i mean he’s hot, he’s funny and he wants to get laid. i’m sure he won’t have too much trouble with that *grin*

    but i’m not in it for the sex, i’m actually in search of someone that i can like, who likes me back and who makes me feel pornographic TOO.

    you’re right, i do love coffee and hot boys… i’ll think about it *grin*

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 12:28 pm | Reply

  11. He might just be a smartass though.
    well, I mean, he’s clearly a smartass…He says so himself.

    Honestly, I think sometimes pretty people get so caught up in being able to get sex whenever they want it (or virtually, anyway) that it can be intriguing to meet someone who isn’t just gonna jump into their arms…

    who knows? Might be a test. ‘Course, there’s definately a soft spot in me personally for someone who’s a writer…I mean clearly they MUST be intelligent and interesting, right? ;)

    His profile says he’s into short and long term dating as well, I say, go for a date with him. If he feels he’s wasted his time, that’s his problem, not yours.

    Comment by mightydoll — January 3, 2006 @ 2:31 pm | Reply

  12. i have nothing witty or cool to add to this long list of comments…just wanted to say…HOLY ADORABLE!!! I’d hit that!!
    (not really…scruples, ya know, but i was powerless not to say it…he’s a hottie)

    Comment by Jenn — January 3, 2006 @ 2:32 pm | Reply

  13. On a side note:
    The photo of Hottie Writer you posted makes me wonder what he’s doing there.
    Is he pondering deep mysteries of life and love, or is he just looking down at his enormous, throbbing, hot…

    Listen to Mighty Doll, she’s right. If you don’t meet up with Mr. BigPen, you’ll never know. You might end up liking him as a person!!

    If you DO, boinking ahoy, BUT on your terms!

    Keep all doors open, and all burners on simmer!

    Johnny Metaphor

    Comment by Johnny Canuck — January 3, 2006 @ 3:32 pm | Reply

  14. I am a lucky bitch, even if I WAS studying law there (which sucked, but not enough to make the experience even a teensy bit sucky)! And I would go back in a second if I thought I could make a living there… but there’s always European holidays… which I am due for, I think, after we get back from our girly holiday somewhere in the tropics.

    Thanks for the advice re frames/no frames. I will definitely be needing the help so you might want to put a collection jar out for me! lol

    Comment by JMai — January 3, 2006 @ 8:04 pm | Reply

  15. doll: heh yeah he’s definetely a smart ass.

    what’s really funny about all this is that i only posted his pic as an example of how ironic it is that you say something and the universe hands you the pudding that proves it… i didn’t mean to spark a discussion about whether or not to date hottie mchottie :)

    i think you’re right about the pretty people and the sex actually. so much so that sometimes they miss the special things in front of them because they’re too caught up in the pretty…

    yeah i’m like that about writers too… tragic of us :) and he could be testing me but then do i care?

    i’ll consider contacting him and asking him out i guess… but if he doesn’t contact me again that seems sign enough?

    jenn: yeah dude, full on hottie… i mean i prefer dark men but that one is enough to make anyone go blonde! :)

    (yeah i would have said that if you had posted this pic in your blog… :)

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 8:41 pm | Reply

  16. johnny: oh i totally know what you mean. he has some caption that implies that he’s reading but i like your take better.

    cause you know, hot pens do it for me every time.

    oh man liking him? that would be hilarious! damm you guys if i msg him he’ll be sure i’ve decided to boink him.

    mmmmm simmer (a la homer simpson)

    JM: nice that you acknowledge that you’re a lucky bitch! my friend princess valium studied law in amsterdam. best four months of her life i think.

    mmmm haven’t been to europe at all.

    i’m happy to help, it’s quite confusing at first. alternately email me your password and i’ll hack your blog with recent comments and stats and then tell you how i did it.

    Comment by sassinak — January 3, 2006 @ 8:50 pm | Reply

  17. I think I might have made a booboo, cause I did email you with info, but I titled the email “woohoo, hacking!”… which perhaps isn’t the wisest way to title an email to someone you’ve never emailed before and who isn’t familiar with your email address (which, btw, is not remotely similar to my blogger ID). Oi.

    The other possibility is that you haven’t had a chance to work your hacking magic yet, which is of course understandable. But I just wanted to alert you to the fact that I was NOT sending some crazy virus-ridden email, poor choice of title as it was. Derrr.

    Comment by JMai — January 4, 2006 @ 8:50 pm | Reply

  18. JM: nope you got it right, it’s just that i haven’t had a chance yet to do it because i’m super really busy :)

    the title was funny, the email was good and hacking is likely tomorrow :)

    Comment by sassinak — January 4, 2006 @ 9:30 pm | Reply

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