snapshots of an idle mind

February 10, 2007


Filed under: anxiety,dating,ebay,life — sassinak @ 12:11 am


i had a funny experience recently while chatting with a man that i know. i was joking around about some matchmakers that have taken an interest in my life and i told him that he had better be careful because if we were seen talking they’d be after us to go out.

and then i commented that he had nothing to worry about because he has a girlfriend and he said ‘no, i just moved out actually’ and i made sympathetic noises and asked him about it.

it turns out that after several years together he’s moved out for what i consider to be excellent reasons and is now single. what’s funny about this is what i did next.

i immediately compared myself favourably to her (in other words: ‘i’m not like *that*’) and found myself touching his shoulder.

yeah, without missing a beat or thinking twice about it i started flirting with him. makes me wonder if i’ve been flirting with him all along and i just sort of didn’t notice.

i’ve definetely thought his girlfriend was a lucky lady but i hadn’t realised i was going to throw my metaphorical hat into the ring until it landed!

i mean hell the ring isn’t even built yet and there’s my hat sitting in the middle of it!

now i have to go chasing after my hat and tell it to settle down and act like a lady and just generally to not be so boy-crazy and there it is sitting all pretty in a ring that’s not even there.

silly hat.


in other news, i bought a reformer.

on ebay.

i know, i didn’t see it coming either. the girl seems really nice and she’s sending me some extra parts and everything.

yes, of course it’s balanced body.


speaking of ebay, that shit is heart stopping!

i mean i sat there and i watched my reformer until there was one little tiny minute left to bid and then i couldn’t wait another second and how i wish i’d waited thirty more and then the numbers were flying and the dust settled and *i* am the proud owner of a genuine pilates reformer.

what the hell.

you would not believe the heart racing rush involved in buying thousand dollar items on ebay, just would not!

in some ways it would have been fun to lose the auction just to get some more of this adrenaline rush.

*reads what she just wrote*

*writes strict personal ebay rules akin to her ‘the sims’ rules*

wow wow wow i’m fried from that auction (it just ended forty minutes ago) and i have to try and have a nap. hah that’s funny.

like i can sleep right now.


i actually slept.


it’s funny this week, a lot of good things are happening around me and to the people that i care about.

my friend shane and i toasted the karma gods today… boy i regret that a little, that sort of hubris can get you in trouble…


regardless, i have a hat to catch, if you’ll excuse me…



  1. yaay, for the reformer AND the flirting…!

    i honestly think the flirting is best when you haven’t even thought about it (aside from the fact that you’d already noted his attractiveness). it’s best when it just happens.

    Comment by terry — February 10, 2007 @ 1:21 am | Reply

  2. terry: dude my reformer is *pretty*

    and the flirting is fun… i’m not sure it will amount to anything and truly i don’t care, it’s been a good week for boys telling me i have pretty eyes or that they’re single [different boys!]

    and you know, i think you’re right, i think that when you think about it it gets forced or weird. it also gets weird if people start pointing out to the two of you that you’re doing it.

    (dude, he’s hot)

    Comment by sassinak — February 10, 2007 @ 2:15 am | Reply

  3. Silly hat. Or maybe it’s the hat that knows best after all.

    I love ebay auctions. I’m picky about what I buy on there since I have been duped in the past (discontinued Escada perfumes), but also I have never bought anything in the thousandsofdollars range. In fact I think the most I’ve ever spent is probably less than $75. But I do love that last minute bidding rush! Congratulations!

    Comment by Jmai — February 10, 2007 @ 9:23 am | Reply

  4. Now THIS is the kinda posts I have been looking forward to from you! Awesome :)

    I’ve never bought a thing from ebay and wouldn’t have a clue where to begin. But I have been in poker pots that were in the $500+ category and I know the adrenaline rush one gets from that. I also bought a vehicle at an auction once and that was heart stopping. So, I can appreciate what ebay must have been like for something that you have wanted very much.

    Nice to see the Karma Gods smiling on you!

    Comment by pyrhonik — February 10, 2007 @ 10:36 am | Reply

  5. I think you’ve just been waiting for your chance to pounce on this guy. I don’t blame you, but just be careful. His head is probably messed up right now. It could end disasterously for you.

    Comment by Jon — February 10, 2007 @ 11:04 pm | Reply

  6. jmai: trust me, you’ll be the first to know!

    when you got duped did you use the ‘item not as advertised’ resolution process? how did it work out?

    and in a weird way i think that maybe a bigger ticket item is safer on that one… plus i confirmed that the manufacturer had sold it to her so if it isn’t her it’s identity theft and international fraud and that’s a big deal i think.

    that rush was wow… heady at best… first ever auction and it’s a couple grand.

    pyr: really? what is it about this post that’s awesome?

    i didn’t know where to start either but when i saw my reformer i knew i’d better learn. then i asked a super ebay nerd for advice *g*

    i would suspect the rush is pretty similar actually. dude it was brutal… and to see it get so close to my limit was really hard.

    thanks! hope they stay that way for a time…

    jon: imagine my surprise to realise i wanted to pounce on him. i’ll invite him to my housewarming in march (st. paddy’s day in fact) and then pounce *g*

    and things end disastrously almost always, what’s one more ;>

    Comment by sassinak — February 11, 2007 @ 1:54 pm | Reply

  7. *snoopydance of the Sass dot* I so want to take Pilates. And I don’t think I flirt anymore. It’s weird. I am in a holding pattern until Peter and I decide what’s gonna happen.


    Comment by Natalia — February 12, 2007 @ 1:29 pm | Reply

  8. is a good service for Ebay,(not a paramilitary porn site) it automatically sends your bid in at the last second of the auction. They have an offer where the first 3 “snipes” are free. I used 2 of them to great effect to win auctions for synthesizers while in art history class. Paypal account hasent been raped or anything so i feel comfortable recommending them.


    Comment by tristan — February 12, 2007 @ 4:02 pm | Reply

  9. [funny sidenote? the two events did not happen in the same place but i’m having a lot of fun with it nonetheless]

    what does this sentence mean?

    you flirt all the time when you talk to men. you should get yourself clandestinely filmed sometime.

    Comment by gabi — February 12, 2007 @ 10:25 pm | Reply

  10. *waves*

    Like Py I was really waiting for a post like this one too. And I agree with Jon on the flirting but in contrast to that I am soooo glad that you ARE flirting! I remember you mentioning that you thougth you forgot how… lol maybe you didn’t forget you just never caught yourself doing it… Sass I am really glad that you are able to toast the Karma gods and I hope it continues for you. My best.


    Comment by huneeb — February 13, 2007 @ 12:27 am | Reply

  11. nat: okay i’ll bite, why do you love the sass dots so?

    you really do want to take pilates, it’s that good. and regarding that holding pattern, that’s the worst, you don’t know if you should jump or not, you turn off your flirt and then you have to figure out how to turn it back on.

    tristan: dammit, i really really wish i had posted this BEFORE i bought my reformer. that’s kinda awesome.

    i have free listings for a month if anyone needs them.

    gabi: one of them happened at work and one of them didn’t. as in the matchmakers and the guy aren’t in the same place.

    but i took it out because it doesn’t matter.

    i flirt when i talk to everyone, it’s how i talk. it’s the follow through i’m working on. it’s just that i don’t flirt the same way with men i can’t have but find attractive as i do with the ones who are available.

    huneeb: *huggs*

    well, i guess you have to know that the karma gods have in fact gently reprimanded me for my hubris. and i’m sort of glad of it.

    i did forget how to flirt, well i forgot how to do the kind of flirting that gets you boys, i’m great at the kind that gets you friends. ah well, friends are good right?

    hunee i hope you’re toasting the karma gods too…

    Comment by sassinak — February 14, 2007 @ 2:28 pm | Reply

  12. do they have two or three bedroom units? sounds like a nice place. i drive by it every morning on the way to work and sometimes going home as well. always thought it would be an great place to live due to it’s splendid location and nearness to downtown. congrats for finding such a convenient for everyone, especially your clients, place to live and work.

    Comment by gabi — February 15, 2007 @ 6:33 am | Reply

  13. When I got duped, I was an idiot about it. The bottle was leaky/weird and the lady offered me a refund. I really wanted this perfume so I said a refund would be ok, but would prefer a replacement bottle. Replacement bottle is when I noticed the bottle collar read A-B-C-D-E-F rather than E-S-C-A-D-A. Yes, I felt dumb. Anyway it was too late by that time (shipping back and forth) to leave any comment, let alone a negative one. I was so mad!

    Comment by JMai — February 15, 2007 @ 8:27 am | Reply

  14. gabi: two yes.

    it’s gorgeous and the building looks really good and i think it might be filled with nuts and animal lovers so i should fit right in. it will be nice to get to know a new neighbourhood.

    i’m really happy with it, i feel lucky as hell too.. i’m the first person who saw it, in fact i basically took it sight unseen. there was another one bedroom and it was nice but not nearly as right… and so she sort of described this one and i wanted it before i was in it.

    i love how close it is to where i work now, it makes the walk to pilates a whole THREE minutes longer.

    jmai: oh man that sucks… i see what you mean.

    i would have felt dumb too but it’s still one of those things that just sucks right? like getting a soaker as you step out of your house in the morning. fortunately it has no long term trauma effect. well except maybe to make you more careful.


    i would have been pissed!

    Comment by sassinak — February 16, 2007 @ 1:55 am | Reply

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